tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35030787479874139542024-02-19T01:52:52.925-05:00A Thought / Renewing the Subconscious MindSpirit, Mind & Body A Thought is designed for you to become a healthier you Spirit, Mind, and Body. Articles will address common and no so common issues that affect people's psychological, spiritual or physical lives to "Change You From The Inside Out!" All blogs are written by the CEO, ghost writers and guest writers. Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3503078747987413954.post-12936219293689309352011-02-06T21:23:00.000-05:002011-02-06T21:23:37.061-05:00Growth Level<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style>
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<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma;"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Hello Readers </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In the last article I talked about being BORN AGAIN the spiritual and natural aspect of growing up. We started from Birth to 4 years of age which is called the Self Stage and what can happen if the right foundation is created during this stage. As I was going through MY change, the Lord took me through a series of different studies about human behavior. I found that there are six distinct human stages of development which affect the ability to love. As we grow, if these stages are not administered correctly, our definition of<span> </span>love can be all wrong. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">But, we are not here to concentrate on the wrong but how can we get it right! Growth Level is continuing the stages of love from where we left off, Birth to Four (4) of Age. The article will open your thinking and expose you to landmines that were placed in your mind, so many years ago, that it was unknown, even to you.<span> </span>We will expose the plots and plans by revealing the time frame in which they were originally planted in your mind, allowing you the opportunity to removed them once and for all. We are destroying wrong mindsets at it root.<span> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Be Blessed!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><b><u><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">GROWTH LEVEL</span></u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In<span> </span>BORN AGAIN, we learned that we are now spiritually responsible to be mature in the things of Christ.<span> </span>We have moved from being co-dependent on things of the world over to depending on the Kingdom and its resources. But we also must know what areas<span> </span>have been damaged prior to being born again.<span> </span>Obtaining a full understanding of the<span> </span>emotional development of a person will help you better understand what obstacles you must overcome.<span> </span>I will give you a brief description of the next stage, <b>5-7 People Pleas-er </b>in this article<b>. </b></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">When a child has reached the ages of 5-11, it is said that they are in their “Pleasing Others / Fairness” stage according to Dr. Jayne Major. This is the stage when they realized that the grown up is in charge and they are doing what they are told to do. They can be outer directed seeking rewards for being good.<span> </span>If the child, age 5-7, doesn't get past this growing stage correctly they’ll never move to the Fairness level found during ages 7-11. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">She mentions this being a crucial time for parents to show there appreciation. This is a great time to put up pictures on the wall of their first achievements, a time to develop thinking skills and more.<b> </b></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: normal;">It is said if this stage does not become fully developed you are likely to see the child become co-dependent.</span></strong></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">What is a co-dependent?<span> </span>Co-dependent is <span class="apple-style-span">“an emotional, psychological and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual’s prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules – rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems.”</span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Without training, we tend to fall into the same old patterns that doesn’t have any principles. But God is a God of patterns and principles!! (Selah.)</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><b><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Passage Proverbs 22: 6: AMP </span></i></b></span><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.<sup>(</sup></span></i><a href="http://bibleresources.bible.com/passagesearchresults.php?passage1=Proverbs+22%3A5-7&version1=45#cen-AMP-17022A"><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">A</span></a><i><sup><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">)</span></sup></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">When I read Proverb 22:6, it has a greater and significant meaning than most people see it.<span> </span>I see the parable as both a natural and spiritual representation.<span> </span>Yes, it refers to a physical child being raised<span> </span>but we, also being children in Christ, must be raised up in our mental thinking. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">To train is to teach; to teach is to lead; to lead we have to know how to follow. Leading our minds to be trained in the way that we should follow; not your will but Thy will be done. We surely will not depart from him. Lets say the scripture like this “retrain your mind in the way God intended it to go.” </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In our growth process (in Christ), we are responsible for letting our old nature die.<span> </span>It<span> </span>must pass away before the “new” can take place. If this negative personality trait is not dealt with, we will carry it over into our new birth. We can’t help where we came from, but we have the ability to change where we are going because you are a Child of the most high! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Luke 5:37-38 And no man putteth new wine into old wineskins; else the new wine will burst the wineskins and be spilled, and the wineskins shall perish. But new wine must be put into new wineskins, and both are preserved.</span></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Kingdom Personality Development:</span></b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> Kingdom personality development (my new program) </span><span style="font-family: Wingdings; font-size: 11pt;">J</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> is a prepared prescription of information that will transform you from a<span> </span>world view and religious mindset to a Kingdom Mindset. It is from the Word of God which uses the epistles that Paul wrote as a road map! Birth to 15yrs and 15yrs to adulthood is set up in two types of thinking. First </span><a href="http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-concrete-thinking.htm"><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">concrete thinking</span></a><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> and if taught and developed correctly you see the move from concrete world think to spiritual </span><a href="http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-abstract-thinking.htm"><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">abstract thinking</span></a><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">. It’s similar to the <b>self actualization</b> survival methods when it comes to<span> </span>behaviors. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Spiritually it becomes important that our child like thinking starts to acknowledge our achievements again. This is where our Father is trying to take us.<i> </i>It is important around this stage (5-7), to keep things positive for a successful spiritual and natural growth, not only for you but for your children too.<i> </i>Healing comes within, if we put a band aid on it doesn’t heal but just cover up the wound. In covering up the behavior we are just creating scars and there are too many people walking around with uncovered scars with in the body.<span> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Let get rid of the scars, !<span> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In my research I found a website that will help better explain Co-Dependent Personality. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><h3 style="color: black; line-height: 14.25pt; margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt 0.5in;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Signs of a Co-dependent Personality</span></h3><div style="color: black; line-height: 19.2pt; margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">1.<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">Relationship addiction</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>~ they have no sense of self or feel they are of value and so they must continually be in an intimate relationship to feel that “high” much like an alcoholic with liquor.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">2.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Lack of Boundaries</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ as part in parcel with their chameleon behavior co-dependents have a habit of lacking emotional boundaries. They will often feel whatever the person around them is feeling.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">3.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></b></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Value is placed on what people think of them</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ Pretty self-explanatory. They will apologize for things they cannot control, a co-dependents goal is to figure out what a person wants and to give it to them.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">4.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Indispensable</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ co-dependents really feel that people would not want them around if they were not giving something so their goal is to make themselves indispensable.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">5.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">What Do You Think?</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ is a question that you will often hear from a co-dependent. They do not believe or trust enough in their own perceptions and so must go to many other sources in order to have their opinion validated.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">6.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Center of The Universe</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ co-dependents are self-centered but in a much different way. If there is a problem, they will bring it back to them as if it is their fault. “You look angry. What did I do?” is often heard coming from the co-dependent.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">7.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Emotional Walls</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ due to a co-dependent’s need to help and take care of others they neglect themselves, which in turn causes them to become out of touch with their own feelings.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">8.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">A Liar</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ Most people lie to get themselves out of trouble and a co-dependent is not much different. They lie to others to get themselves out of uncomfortable situations, or out of confrontations, they also lie to themselves when it comes to their feelings.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">9.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Fear of Abandonment</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ the co-dependent personality needs to be involved in every aspect of their significant other’s life. If they are not, the co-dependent perceives it as abandonment.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">10.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><strong><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Control and Judgment</span></strong><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">~ one thing that the co-dependent craves is control, this disease arises from a deep seeded fear. They build an illusion around themselves and try to control all of the variables to keep that illusion in place.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Last Words: If you fit any of these personalities or behaviors and you are a BORN AGAIN child of Christ, then realize that this is not a healthy GROWTH LEVEL when it comes to Kingdom mindset.<span> </span>So ask yourself: Is it time to <b><i>really</i></b><span> </span>get healed? </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><a href="http://beckahthepsychic.wordpress.com/2009/03/27/recog-co-dependent/"><span style="font-family: Verdana;">Read More On Co-Dependent</span></a><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 9pt;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"><span> </span>Blessings </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"> </span><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=widgetsamazon-20&l=bil&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1582853770" style="border: medium none ! important; color: black; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /><iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=widgetsamazon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=1582853770&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe></span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3503078747987413954.post-83699319668470183672011-01-31T21:46:00.029-05:002011-02-01T04:56:26.132-05:00BORN AGAIN / YOUR MINDSET<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;"><b><u><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 14pt;"><span style="text-decoration: none;"> </span></span></u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> </span><a href="http://changingufromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/"><img border="0" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjljAbJde27jaxQRgJPdUF2Dk_lbAL7Br0dKvP8zY8LB1SYt9kBn-S1jbwpvKtYBCmPbcmRRnEErdwZW9Au_5nl_8SVHoiX32bLwEqi0jVLqE5VHe_qwhDiF7VgwLvw5CfnBmCg2QiQCAI/s200/OurFatherBORNAGAIN.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Hello Readers, </span></div></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Our last article contained information about relationships and how they can become dysfunctional. We introduced how dysfunctions can occur because of individual issues that have not been resolved prior to entering into a relationship. This article will focus on how to identify and rectify these “landmines” in our minds that cause us to repeat patterns and destroy otherwise healthy relationships.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">When we are born we take on the natural personalities, traits, and characteristics of the people and environment in which we are raised. In our natural birth, thoughts and reasons can be tampered with at an early age and can cause all the negative temperaments within one self. But each person has the choice to be Born Again. We have the opportunity to change our natural inclinations and replace them with correct and healthy thoughts. Because when we are Born Again, we take on the characteristics of Christ including Christ-like thinking. Let's start our self evaluation to become more Christ like.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">BORN AGAIN</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Psychologists state that all of mankind process emotions during our growth stages the same way. They focus on two primary emotions, <b>LOVE and FEAR</b>! They say it is important to set a structure with a sturdy foundation around these the primary emotions because these two emotions govern all of your other emotions. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">From ages Birth to Four is the time of learning to love. This is a crucial time to help build sturdy, structural foundation of love if not then a person can develop a </span><a href="http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html"><span style="font-family: Tahoma;">Sociopath</span></a><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> tendencies (read more click on link). </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">What is a Sociopath? </span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Sociopath usually display the following characteristics: </span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">Superficial Charm, </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Manipulative and Cunning, </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">Grandiose Sense of Self,</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">Feels entitled to certain things as "their right.”, Pathological Lying, </span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt, Shallow Emotions</span></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">, Incapacity for Love, Need for Stimulation, <span class="apple-style-span">Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature etc… <a href="http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html">READ PROFILE OF A SOCIOPATH</a></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Birth to four is the perfect place to start with in this segment of BORN AGAIN because this is where we begin forming our behaviors. Many of us don’t know or understand why we act the way we do. Our actions have actually become part of our daily routine in our natural life. It is time to be true to yourself and <b>RENEW YOUR MIND. </b>It’s a New Year and time to dig deep into the crevasses of our negative thought patterns and patterns of self sabotage. Lets look at an example of what happens when your mind has not been renewed. </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">When God made man it was out of love but when the fruit was eaten instead of him walking in only Gods love he was now hiding in fear. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Genesis 3:10 <span class="apple-style-span">“I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.”</span></span></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">This is a prime example of how bad choices can cause you to have wrong thoughts and reactions to things. In the scripture, you see God only wanted to talk with Adam as he had in the past, but because his thinking was off, he hid from his friend. This action not only affected Adam and Eve but all of man kind. They came from walking in the light of God's love to taking company with darkness and fear. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">I John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love cast out all fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been perfect in love. </span></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">When we are unbalanced in our natural man and are experiencing more anxieties and fears than love and empowerment, then character assassination and identity hi-jacking has taken place. You see, God's plan is for us to subdue and conquer this world thru love. Anytime, we abandon this by walking in fear, then we have lost our identity. But our fears are developed during our early stages of learning to love. Negative personalities, situations and circumstances can transpire that leave a residue on our emotions and soul that is not removed until we are Born Again into the love of God. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">God first intention for man was to help expand our thinking. In Genesis, when man was place in the Earth, he was giving dominion. Adam was place in Eden and given an assignment. It was not just a physical work but a mental exercise to expand the thinking pattern of his mind. <img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=widgetsamazon-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0877853754" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Genesis 15 <span class="apple-style-span">Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it</span></span></i><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">.</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Verdana;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><i><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Genesis 19<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span">Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought</span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span">them</span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span">to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that</span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span">was its name.</span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span"><b><sup>20</sup></b></span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="apple-style-span">So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. </span></span></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">You see in the example above that God's assignment included naming all the animals and creatures in the world. God wanted to make sure that Adam thought like Him. We need to think like Christ but first we have to be Born Again. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In Review</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Evaluate yourself by looking at the characteristics of a Sociopath. Be honest. Did you find yourself in any of them? By admitting that you have a characteristic flaw, you will find a place to grow from. Don’t dwell on it, but change it now. You are one step ahead to a healthier life!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">How to change? Take the time to mediate in the Word of God day and night. Study books like Romans, Ephesians and Proverbs; they will help increase you in wisdom. Remember, a Proverb a day keep the demons away. </span><span style="font-family: Wingdings; font-size: 11pt;">J</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">I pray this segment helps you…I will be introducing in the coming weeks more information on learning to love based on age groups and thought patterns so we can all live a healthy life together.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Renewing the mind by “Changing you from the inside out!” and becoming BORN AGAIN KINGDOM minded child of the most high! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><div style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Blessings!</span></div><br />
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">During my sabbatical from “Acting Wife”, I learned about my natural inclinations (both negative and positive) and the emotional triggers that cause this reaction. I found that my negative reactions just covered up the insecurities that I had hidden within my subconscious. These insecurities were now reeking havoc in my conscious world influencing my mind set (thinking/reasoning). My wrong mind set was spreading malice and confusion within my relationship causing a web of issues that I could not escape from. To sum it all up, it caused Identity Crisis!</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Why would I name this “Relationship Gone RIGHT?” Because Relationships can go right if you know who you really are; “to thine own self be true”.<span style="color: red;"> </span><span style="color: black;">To</span> know yourself will allow you to redirect your thinking from the negative to the positive, which is a Kingdom Minded mindset. <i>What is a Kingdom Mind Set? You have to read the Kingdom manual for that</i> (Hint: Read the letters printed in red and you’ll never go wrong). </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Many times we get into a relationship because we don’t want to deal with our own issues. We feel it’s better to run away from our issues rather than face our inner demons head on. We can develop an addictive personality disorder one of them is feeling like we HAVE to be in a relationship, much like a drug addict has to have their drug. What we find is that within the relationship, we continue to run into the thing that we ran away from! It never leaves us if we don’t face it! Your desire was for the relationship to fulfill a void or to correct that problem, but that person cannot solve your problems because it lies within the issue YOU are unwilling to face. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Before you get into another relationship, ask yourself these things:</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><ul style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Am I trying to fill a void? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">How do I view my previous marriage/relationship? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Why did I get married or why was I in the last relationship (be honest)? Was it: </span></span></li>
</ul><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">to fill a void, for finances, for intimacy, sex, because you were lonely, for security, stability? Were you infatuated, was that person fun to be with, was your biological clock ticking or did you feel desperate? Think about it!</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Get to know yourself: </span></b></div><ul style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Do you know your emotional triggers? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Is it time to be in a relationship? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What triggers your negative emotions?</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What makes you happy? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What makes you scared? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What do you not like about yourself?</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What are you hiding that will hinder a health relationship? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Do you have insecurities?</span></span></li>
</ul><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">If you don’t know the answer to any of these questions, ask someone you can TRUST for their opinion. Trusted friends or family are always willing to help you become the BEST “you” you can be.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="color: black;">Physical Self Evaluation: Next stand naked in the mirror; and ask yourself what it is that you don’t like about yourself. If you don’t like something, what can you do about it? If you don’t learn to LOVE your out appearance, then it’s most likely going to become an issue in your next relationship when you get married. So work on correcting those issues NOW, not just weeks prior to the wedding!</span></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Healing suggestions </span></span></b></div><ul style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">When was the last time you took yourself on a date? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Did you ever make peace with that family member, old friend etc. that hurt you or did you wrong?</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">When you meet someone new make sure they challenge your current way of thinking to increase in learning (Wisdom) </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Stop running from what was sent to disrupt your comfort zone. Don’t get rid of them but deal with the minor imperfections; deal with it and analyze the situation. Is it them or is it you? </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">A great way of knowing yourself is watching your family actions and how you all handle situations.</span></span></li>
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Never get into a relationship for a physical void but a spiritual promise. Explain your likes and dislikes; watch all emotional reactions not just in the other person but also with yourself. Get healed before you start dating again. When you start dating make sure you are not walking into the date with your high minded expectation. Let God do what he has to do with in both you and your mate. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Before you build another relationship, make sure you have one with the Father (up above). If you are still addressing Jesus / God as “your Home-Boy” or someone that is just “up-there in the sky”, then you have lost the point of intimacy (In-To-Me-You-See).</span></div><h2 style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 14pt 0in 14pt 0.4in;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">A </span>“<span style="font-weight: normal;">Relationship Gone Right” starts with you and your relationship with the (God) The Father. Get your manual and learn your Father’s likes and dislikes and always remember that the word say’s in </span><i><span style="color: black;">John 15:7 (NIV) <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span>If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. Including that right mate! </i></span></h2><h2 style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 14pt 0in 14pt 0.4in;"><span style="font-size: small; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: black;">You deserve better but you will never know this if you don’t know what better is. It starts within you. Let’s renew our minds before we try to connect to someone else.</span></span></h2><div style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 14pt 0in 14pt 0.4in;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://changingufromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/"><img border="0" height="256" s5="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUP-y6_vzmvPh17Z8bgANoAK2G4qAtpFa7If8C8ecF6-_KNZhqKOo20fREefumMmIpbmWOeJD0sQE7EqYrStAlmZ7M-236xWn2eg046Smq7DHfJW4FXA0hyphenhyphen_ugoPZZZ-W-m4wb_T_WU8I/s320/CTMCDCOVERcopy.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Check out this self-evaluate chart by psychologist </span><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://changingufromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2011/01/abraham-maslow-chart.html">Abraham Maslow!</a></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">. This chart shows us where the natural mind thinks and explains why we behave the way we do<i>. </i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://changingufromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2011/01/abraham-maslow-chart.html">Maslow Chart!</a></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif; margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">Blessings! </span></span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3503078747987413954.post-32373878946699186782011-01-25T19:33:00.002-05:002011-01-25T19:43:43.943-05:00Abraham Maslow Chart!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div style="margin-left: 0.5in; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">WHERE ARE YOU? </span></span></span><br />
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</div><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Physiological<span class="apple-converted-space"> / Survival Needs</span> </span></b><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">required to sustain life, such as:</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; tab-stops: list .75in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Air</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; tab-stops: list .75in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Water</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; tab-stops: list .75in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Food</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 14pt 0.75in; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; tab-stops: list .75in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Sleep</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 14pt 0in 14pt 0.5in;"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">According to this theory, if these fundamental needs are not satisfied then one will surely be motivated to satisfy them. Higher needs such as social needs and esteem are not recognized until one satisfies the needs basic to existence.</span></span></span></div><div style="margin-left: 0.5in; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Safety<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>/ Security<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span></b><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Once physiological needs are met, one's attention turns to safety and security in order to be free from the threat of physical and emotional harm. Such needs might be fulfilled by: </span></span></div><ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l2 level2 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Living in a safe area</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l2 level2 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Medical insurance</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l2 level2 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Job security</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 14pt; mso-list: l2 level2 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Financial reserves</span></span></li>
</ul></ul><div style="margin-left: 0.5in; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Social /Love Needs </span></b><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Once a person has met the lower level physiological and safety needs, higher level motivators awaken. The first level of higher level needs are social needs. Social needs are those related to interaction with others and may include:</span></span></div><ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 14pt 0in 0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Friendship</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Belonging to a group</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 14pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Giving and receiving love</span></span></li>
</ul><div style="margin-left: 0.5in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"> </span></b></span><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Appreciate / Self<span class="apple-converted-space"> - </span>Esteem Needs </span></b><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">After a person feels that they "belong", the urge to attain a degree of importance emerges. Esteem needs can be categorized as external motivators and internal motivators.</span></span></div><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Internally motivating esteem needs are those such as self-esteem, accomplishment, and self respect. External esteem needs are those such as reputation and recognition.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Some examples of esteem needs are:</span></span><br />
<ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 14pt 0in 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Recognition (external motivator) </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Attention (external motivator) </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Social Status (external motivator) </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Accomplishment (internal motivator) </span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 14pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Self-respect (internal motivator)</span></span></li>
</ul><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Maslow later improved his model to add a layer in between self-actualization and esteem needs: the need for aesthetics and knowledge.</span></span><br />
<div style="margin-left: 0.5in; mso-list: l8 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-fareast-font-family: Verdana;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><b><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Self- Actualization Needs </span></b><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;">Self-actualization is the summit of Maslow's motivation theory. It is about the quest of reaching one's full potential as a person. Unlike lower level needs, this need is never fully satisfied; as one grows psychologically there are always new opportunities to continue to grow.</span></span></div><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Self-actualized people tend to have motivators such as:</span></span><br />
<ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 14pt 0in 0pt; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Truth</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Justice</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Wisdom</span></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 14pt; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; tab-stops: list .5in;"><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Meaning</span></span></li>
</ul><span style="font-family: "Verdana", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">Self-actualized persons have frequent occurrences of<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><i>peak experiences</i>, which are energized moments of profound happiness and harmony. According to Maslow, only a small percentage of the population reaches the level of self-actualization.</span></span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"><a href="http://honolulu.hawaii.edu/intranet/committees/FacDevCom/guidebk/teachtip/maslow.htm"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="color: blue; font-size: x-small;">Read More by clicking on this link</span></span></a><span style="color: maroon; font-family: "Tahoma", "sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3503078747987413954.post-80587653427603080692011-01-12T18:57:00.000-05:002011-01-12T18:57:44.814-05:00STEREOTYPING<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;"><b><u><span style="font-family: Tahoma;"></span></u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Hello Readers,</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">I am back and I am here to give you <b>Another Thought</b> (A Thought Of The Day). The “Thought of the Day” ceased its regular publication back in 2009 and if you keep reading, you will find out why this article took a hiatus. During this time off, there was a time of consecration and transformation while God took me through into acceleration in Him. I am grateful to return as the author of this weekly article and I pray that you enjoy it! - </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">The subconscious mind is truly powerful. In 2009, I wrote a series on <b>The Battle of the Mind</b>. In doing this series, guess who became the first partaker of it? The dysfunctional psychological agenda hidden within my own subconscious ended up bringing dysfunction into my conscious <i>surroundings <b>Proverbs 23:7 </b></i></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">For</span></i></b></span><span class="apple-style-span"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> as he thinks in his heart, so</span></i></b></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></i></b></span><span class="apple-style-span"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">is</span></i></b></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></i></b></span><span class="apple-style-span"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;">he.</span></i></b></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> </span></i></b></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> But…what was meant to take me out; did not kill me! It just took me through some<b> major changes </b>in my life. And what many would say was bad, was truly for my Good. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">In the <b>Battle of the Mind</b> series, different aspects were raised that reflected upon the battles that individuals deal with. In <b><i>Renewing The Mind, </i></b>we are going to talk about the subconscious, characteristics, personality disorders, and more. We are going to tap into how to get on track to conquer the overall dysfunction of it. The topic of today’s edition is <b>Stereotyping</b>. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><b><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Stereotyping: </span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">I realized in the midst of a casual conversation with someone, just how quickly we stereotype others, unconsciously. It's as if it has been inbreed into our subconscious to size a person up and put them in box, based upon little to no fact or proof. I refused to agree with a generalized statement that came up during our conversation and I was judged because of it. I believe all nations, color, religions and creeds are equal within the human race with the same human failing and predispositions depending upon the culture in which you were raised. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">While in a conversation with someone, have you ever said: “those Black people”, “Those White people”, “Those Muslim people”, “Those Christian people”….etc? Have you ever sized up a crowd and immediately thought to yourself with shame or disgust: “Look at those_____ people”? As you look at the end of those statements, you will see the word <b>PEOPLE</b>. Yes, we are all people!! People have a mind set, no matter what age, color, religion, belief or creed; we are still people. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Each person develops with different personalities and characteristics that cause each to react to everyday situations and circumstances uniquely. Just because we belong to a religious group, organization or a different race, doesn’t change where we come from nor does it change the influences that taught us to be who we are. As you noticed, I said <b><i>taught</i></b> not <b><i>ought </i></b>to be. Soulful thinking or <b>Kingdom</b> thinking (your mind set) controls our reactions to everyday situations and circumstances. </span></div><h2 style="background-color: white; color: black; margin-left: 0.75pt; text-indent: -2.25pt;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: normal;">As you know the soul is made of your mind, will, emotions, intellect and imagination. These components are things found in the subconscious. It doesn’t matter if you join these groups and organizations. It all has to do with your thinking. Look what the scripture says in </span><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt; font-weight: normal;">Proverbs 23:7-8 (New American Standard Bible)</span></h2><div style="background-color: white; color: black;"><b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> <sup>7</sup>For as he thinks within himself, so he is.<br />
He says to you, "Eat and drink!"<br />
</span></i></b><b><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> <i>But<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>his heart is not with you</i>.</span></b><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"> My Thought on this scripture is: This meaning self is self will! </span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 11pt;"><br />
<b><sup>8</sup></b><b>You <i>will<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>vomit up the morsel you have eaten,<br />
And waste your compliments.</i></b> My Thought on this scripture is: Falling on deaf ears because again, the so<span style="background-color: black;"></span>ul is full of self! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;"> Every man was born into sin and it’s going to take more than just joining an or<span style="background-color: black;"></span>ganization to change us. Real change comes from within and if you don't seek to be changed spiritually; to be Kingdom minded with Kingdom principles, we will always see people as “Blacks” as “Thieves”, as “Whites” as “Embezzlers”, “Muslim” as “Wife Beaters”, “Christians”, as Liars”, etc… <b>PEOPLE BEING PEOPLE</b>! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">So before you make a generalized statement against a group or religion, consider what that statement says about your mindset. Is it Kingdom focused or Soulful? </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: black;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">We just want to leave you with this thought… today.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 11pt;">Mrs. Bridget Norvell </span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1